“When we remember how hard it is to change ourselves, we begin to understand what little chance we have of changing others.”
Do you remember the last big change you wanted for yourself? Losing weight, quitting smoking, changing jobs, starting an exercise program, getting a better job? How did it go for you? Did you make it? If so, how long did it take?
If you’re like most of us, it was a long, hard process. The fact is, most people who start the change process never finish. Beliefs and habits are tough to change. Only the most disciplined and committed of us make it.
How much time and effort do we spend trying to change others? Husbands changing wives, wives changing husbands, parents changing children, bosses changing employees. If you think about it, we spend a lot of time each day trying to get people to do the things we want them to do the way we want them to do it.
What about the frustration when it doesn’t happen, or it doesn’t happen fast enough? We invest a lot of time and energy trying to change people when all we can do is learn how to act and react to who and what they are.
Where do you spend your time? Trying to do the impossible or accepting, re-acting and responding to people as they are? It’s time to make the better and happier choice.